How do i stop the pattern?

I have a problem with a few of the women in my family a couple on my husbands side and one on mine. People tell me I have a way of making them feel better and a way with advice and it makes me feel good to help people but it has turned into me being like their counselor. My problem is they only ociate with me when they need to recap what has happened to them and ask my advice and it wouldn't bother me so much but I used to be close to a couple of them and now I feel like I am their employee. I am sick of this pattern, it is in my nature to try to help, but I don't want any part of this anymore how do I say you will have to handle this on your own without feeling I am being selfish and mean?